SIX SOURCES OF THE FEAR OF SUCCESS: PART 4

Now to part 4 of my six sources of the fear of success!  Jeremy Frandsen and Jason VanOrden, owners of Internet Business Marketing, who came out with a podcast May of 2014 titled “Is the fear of success holding you back (and you don’t even realize it)?” They deserve the credit and you can find it here.  

THE SIX SOURCES OF THE FEAR OF SUCCESS

1. Fear that you will lose it once you have it

2. Fear that you won't know what to do with it once you have it

3. Fear of criticism from those around you once you have success

4. Fear of changing into someone else once you have success

5. Fear that you don't deserve it once you have success

6. Fear that you won't enjoy that level of success (or the end result)

This is addressed to my current team and I hope it helps you out too.  Please leave your comments and questions below.  If you missed parts 1, 2, or 3 click on the link and read it!

Fear of changing into someone you won’t like once we have success.  Picture this: 5’10’’, 255 lbs man-child with arms the size of legs and legs the size of people (and no, he’s not Polynesian!).  Is that what will happen to you when you begin your off-season weight training program?  Heck no!  Lifting weights, or any other conditioning, will not turn you into something you don’t want to become, at least not instantly.  This is the most common, and hilarious, thinking I hear from rookie high school lifters (specifically females!).  “I don’t want to get bulky..”  Gets me every time! 

A used car salesman is a good stereotypical example.  He usually doesn’t start out as sleazy, fast-talking guy in a cheap suit.  He began as an energetic and enthusiastic person trying to earn money and over time he learns the tricks of the trade (along with the ‘dirty’ ones).  But not all salesmen want to steal your money.  I've worked with honest, hard-working people who are trying to deliver a good product to the consumer.  These people CHOSE to be that way and learned how along the way.

With football you should be setting goals along the journey and striving to reach them.  If you want to have a certain quality, ability, or attribute, you WILL have to work at it.  Jeremy and Jason said, “If you’re worried about become someone you won’t like, chances are you are already aware of why and won’t allow yourself to become such.”  Just be yourself, set goals, and work to get there one step at a time.

...and in the slim chance you realize you're choices are leading you elsewhere, step back, reset your goals and continue pushing forward, which is not a bad practice anyway!  Remember that goals are your goals, and life is your life!  Choose your path and do everything in your power to cross the finish line!!

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SIX SOURCES OF THE FEAR OF SUCCESS: PART 3

Here is part 3 of my six sources of the fear of success.  Credit goes to Jeremy Frandsen and Jason VanOrden, owners of Internet Business Marketing, who came out with a podcast May of 2014 titled “Is the fear of success holding you back (and you don’t even realize it)?”  You can find it here.  

THE SIX SOURCES OF THE FEAR OF SUCCESS

1. Fear that you will lose it once you have it

2. Fear that you won't know what to do with it once you have it

3. Fear of criticism from those around you once you have success

4. Fear of changing into someone else once you have success

5. Fear that you don't deserve it once you have success

6. Fear that you won't enjoy that level of success (or the end result)

This is addressed to my current team and I hope it helps you out too.  Please leave your comments and questions below.  If you missed part 1 or part 2, click on the link and it will send you there.

Fear of criticism from those around us once we have success.  The old adage goes, ‘Misery loves company.’ I believe this to be true in sense!  Everyone has a friend who is the naysayer.  “You don’t want to do that!”  “I can’t believe coach is making you practice on a Saturday!”  “Why don’t you just BS your homework.  The teacher doesn’t even read it..”   

Others will see you doing the simple, but difficult, things and achieving results.  They will give you reasons or even try to tempt you to not do the right thing.  The truth is, however, they are not happy to see you have success in large part because they are not willing to do the little things right, consistently, over a long period of time.  They don’t want you doing the “hard work” because if they aren’t going to work and achieve success, neither should you!  Their own envy and fear of being left behind work hand in hand to justify their destructive behavior.  

Examine your circle of friends and ask yourself if that is who you want to be around you? 

Do you have a group that has the same mindset as you?  

Do they have an encouraging presence or are they looking to bring you down? 

If someone in your group is not helping you reach your goals, get rid of them!  You will be so happy you did!  True friends and supporters will cheer you on, give you advice, and want to learn what you know!  Find those people and stick with them!  They will be a great influence on you as you work toward your goals!

I would love to hear your feedback on Part 3!  I also welcome questions in the comments or you can email me at dandupaix@gmail.com.  Thanks for reading!